Okay, so you're finally back on the dating scene, and a guy (or girl) asks you to go out for drinks. Do you order food?
Now, this question actually caused a debate amongst my friends. Now you would not think that it would not, but let's go through some different perspectives.
One of my friends said- Absolutely, if I am hungry, then I am ordering food. However, I know that I may have to pay for my food. BUT if I do pay for my food, then that will be our last date.
Another friend said- It depends on where we sit. If we sit at the bar, then I will just order a drink. However, if we sit at a table, then that would mean that ordering food is okay.
Another friend said- Who only gets drinks! There is usually at least an appetizer involved.
Another friend said- I just think he has misspoken, and getting drinks means lunch or dinner depending on the time.
Keep in mind these are answers from females. When I asked one of my guy friends, he said that if he says "drinks," then he only wants you to order drinks. And if the person orders food, then it would be looked at as rude.
Now I have more of a neutral view. When you have been on a few dates, you begin to read people. I tend to follow the guy's direction for the most part. If he orders just a drink, then I would order just a drink. If he orders food that is priced in a specific range, I will order food priced in that range.
When the date begins, sometimes a guy says things like "order whatever you want," so just read the situation. But trust and believe if I am hungry, I will be ordering food and paying for it myself. Then I will ask the waitress for a separate check (which a guy usually won't let happen in my experience).
You should also look at the reason why he is just asking you out for a drink. Often, it is a sign that he is not trying to "invest in you". The more bare minimum the date, the less likely he is looking for anything serious with you.
But comment below what you think, and we can have a girl chat!
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Your virtual bestie
Mimi T